There is a lesson that says, “When we are unwilling to look deeply and courageously into our own lives, we can easily violate others in many subtle ways that we may not even be aware of, thinking that we are actually helping them.”
I connected with this passage so deeply in a time when I needed it most. Thinking we know what is better for others becomes a subtle way we do violence. When we take it upon ourselves to “help” the other, we whittle away at their sense of autonomy. Nonviolence asks us to trust the other’s ability to find the answer they are seeking. It asks us to have faith in the other, not feel sorry for them. Nonviolence asks us to trust the other’s journey and love and support others to their highest image of themselves, not our highest image of them.
So I asked myself where do you cross the line between wanting to help someone out of passion and compassion and not violating someones way of being? Tough question and very deep; however, when you do it out of true authentic love and not from ego and self acceptance, and you come from a place of peace and clarity you will automatically be helping them. You are helping them be them in the way they are supposed to live their life, it is not for me to decide, it is for them to discover and that is freeing yourself from violence and sharing nonviolence with others.